Phil Grossfield's Blog


No Cinderella For You!

dovesketchesHow Will She See Herself? I try diligently to teach my 8-year old daughter to overcome societal pressures. I encourage her to be strong and not rely on others…this is why at one point I was dead-set against Disney movies where the poor helpless princess was doomed until the handsome strong prince showed up to save her. I don’t want my daughter to feel she needs to be saved by anyone. I want her to be strong, positive and independent…she’s Grossfield for the love of all things holy in this land! Equally important, and critical to this goal, I want her to have a fabulous self-image.

But the media pressure for a young girl to look a specific way is a behemoth of a challenge to overcome. Although I know my daughter is the most beautiful girl on the planet, her self-confidence shouldn’t be dependent on how attractive other people find her. Women are so critical of the way they look. Even my wife, who is absolutely stunning, will comment from time to time on how she doesn’t feel pretty…I look at her like she’s completely delusional.

Dove started a campaign years ago to reverse the trend on women’s self-image…a trend that only 4% of women around the world consider themselves beautiful…4%!  But I think slowly and steadily our society is getting their message. It doesn’t hurt that the numbers of smart strong women as public figures are increasing and similar social campaigns are emerging to reverse the fiction. The following link is a message to women that they need to stop being so critical of themselves. Dove hired a professional forensic artist to draw women based on self-description and then again by someone else…the difference is telling: Dove Real Beauty Sketches.

My Market Watch:  Pricing is the same as yesterday…Interbank did not take the bait to change its pricing despite positive movement in stocks. This morning we see the stock market giving up its gains and now we’re in a good place as far as bonds are concerned. Bonds are up +25bps already today and up another 12bps since rates were published this morning. This is encouraging news…if the bond continues to do well we could see a mid-day rate change for the better. I advise you refrain from locking to see if a mid-day improvement will come. Of course, if you’re going to play this game, then you need to be watchful of the market for a reverse shift.  But in my opinion we’d have to see a fairly large sell-off in bonds for that to occur and that is not likely. Let me know if you have any comments….

My Schedule:  I am available all day.  Please note, I rarely answer my phone before 10:30a as I use this time to catch up on the previous day’s business and prepare the remainder of the day….

fergusonsCure for Cystic Fibrosis.  Our family is walking again this year to find a cure for CF, a life-limiting illness. We walk for our friends pictured, Ashton (age 11) and Lola (age 7). The average life expectancy of someone with CF is 37. Let’s change that!  JOIN ME – WALK WITH ME ON MAY 19 – help us to raise money for a cure.  JOIN ME – WALK WITH MY FAMILY ON MAY 19, or, to donate:donate here.  THANKS!

2 responses to “No Cinderella For You!

  1. kate schuhl April 17, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Phil, great blog post about Cinderella! Knowing you and Colleen as I do, please know that I have no doubt your beauteous daughter and also handsome son will both grow up with a strong sense of self and they will know they are strong, beauteous in and out, and smart enough to know not to let others make them feel or think otherwise……I raised Brandi to be strong, independent, brave, to follow her own heart, and do her own thing no matter who agreed with her….ha ha and sometimes in her grown up life it has come back to bite me for sure! She had that problem of some guys not looking in her eyes when they talked to her……you know how that goes……and she confronted that head on and let them know that her eyes were on her face not her chest! I have always been proud of how she has grown up with her own way of thinking of things, she does things her own way, she planned her wedding to be EXACTLY what she wanted, which included spending only $5,000 for the entire event and it was fabulous! Having raised her on my own with many friends and family who supported us both with love and kindness, I made sure to not impose my own feelings on things unless she wanted my opinion, I instilled in her the ability to talk to me about anything, whether it was good or bad, and then I let her go, quite like a butterfly, when it was time for her to move out and go on her own at the young age of 19…..she never looked back and has forged a great, fulfilling life for herself, as well as for her husband and their only child, the black Akita known as Ireland……Believe me, you and Colleen are such great, caring parents and both of your precious kids will thank both of you when they are older, for giving them all the things they need to find their own way and not give in to peer pressure, not to mention all the love you always show them……trust in them and trust in yourselves, I am a lot older than you, as we know, and I know of what I speak ha ha ha, at least in this regard anyway! xoxoxoxoxoxo Kate p.s. love to all the family!!!!!

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